A breakup is the end of one chapter and the beginning of a new one if you allow it to be. Nothing hurts like a broken heart, however, there are definitely ways to overcome a breakup-up or a heartbreak. Let’s figure them out together in this blog how can you overcome a breakup:
1.Friends and Family
Our instinct after a breakup is to isolate ourselves and get depressed all day in bed. We will either eat too much or too little and likewise with our sleeping pattern.
We feel like it’s our utter responsibility and destiny to suffer alone when we can rely on the people we love, whether in our family or from other friends.
You have lost one person in a relationship but that does not mean that you have lost everyone around you.
They will try to make us feel better based on their understanding and their idea of what it is like to heal someone. Therefore, communicate your needs effectively and let them know how you want them to handle you in your different states to help you heal.
2.Feel the negative feelings
We often feel like we do not have the permission to express how we feel especially when it is negative emotions. At the end of the day no one wants to be labelled as a negative person or to be judged and perceived as a “depressed” person. Yet, you have to know your right to express how you feel at all times with the right people while choosing to feel all the negative feelings and emotions instead.
3.Self-Journaling
Self-expression is very important especially when done in healthy and efficient ways. Try journaling about how you feel, and you shall feel much better where you can also go back to those journals and compare your performance between now and then. Self-journaling will allow you to relive the experience and heal well while creating your own closure based on your reasons and not someone else’s reasons.
4.Indulge on Self-Love and Progress
You were loved by someone else who is no longer part of your life. Therefore, you must make up for this love by giving it to yourself. This might sound cheesy and very predictable; however, it is the hardest truth about a breakup. People often choose to be in a relationship because they are craving to be loved by someone. Therefore, you must create a self-love list that you would give your best friend and do it for yourself as if you are that heartbroken best friend. Take yourself on dates, spas and do a lot of meditation and yoga to reconnect with yourself.
5.Social Media
We often find ourselves obsessing over checking our ex’s social media. Their story on Instagram, their last posted event and we slowly turn into FBI stalkers. Know that every time you choose to check your ex’s social media account you are signing up for deliberate pain and hurt which will certainly hinder your healing process and cause you more pain, depression, and anxiety. Stop yourself from checking their social media accounts and delete them as soon as you break up without causing them any hurt through insulting them on social media.