“Love, like everything else in life, should be a discovery, an adventure, and like most adventures, you don’t know you’re having one until you’re right in the middle of it.”
― E.A. Bucchianeri,
The famous writer Ihsan Abdul Quddus once said about the first love, “There lies in every individual’s life an illusion called the first love.”
Some people agree and others do not agree. Many people would admit that their first love was just an illusion and was not really justifying that they were too young or made the wrong choice.
Other people would conclude that their first love was not real once they have met their second love. Sequentially, they would say the same about their second love once they have met their third love, and so on.
According to some relationship coaches, first love is true. The truth is they were all real because they were feeling that we have experienced at the moment at the time.
We felt euphoric, we saw our partner’s bad side and yet fell in love with them even when we were not the happiest. However, due to the hurt and disappointment that we have experienced with them, we find it sad and sometimes disgraceful to call the love that had caused us so much pain and hurt, “our first love” or even admit that it was real.
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First Love Is A Lesson
Every love has its magic. Every love teaches you a lesson. Every love has a blessing. Every love has its curse as well. The first love becomes a first love based on your definition of love.
Love becomes an attraction to the best version of yourself and a distraction from anything that would make you backward. It never distracts you from your true potential and what you are meant to achieve in the world. The first love is one that you do not grieve from day one because how your partner is crushing every single expectation of yours.
It is a love that does not steal time from you, a precious portion of your life that once given cannot be returned whatsoever.
The first love is the true love that lasts with you forever because it is the one where you experience new things for the first time.
It is the one that teaches you to love yourself first. It is the one that teaches you to take care of yourself like no other. It is the love that teaches you to put yourself first and then anyone else.
It is love that makes you prioritize your happiness. Your first love should be yourself.
Self-love is what you should be experiencing before loving anyone else.
When you love yourself, you love others. When you empathize with yourself, you empathize with others. When you forgive yourself, you forgive others. When you love yourself, the only validation and approval that matters are your own and not anyone else’s.
Therefore, if your first love is another human being before you become your own first love, then it is certainly an illusion because it is coming from a place of need not want.